On 19th. December 2025, a new carer came, that was not only unexpected, but one that had not attended for five months. She went to my wife's bedside, you would have thought she had known my wife for years. Initially she was full of praise for my devotion, love and the level of care I provide for my wife.
After a hour of arriving her manner and attitude suddenly changed.
This carer decided to call the police, who came under her request. I was threatened with arrest, and told I had to leave our home for allegedly mistreating my wife? An absolute untruth. No consideration was given to the fact that my wife has advancing dementia and the ability to fabricate stories and often hallucinates, but thankfully these allegations were dismissed by the police as they confirmed there was nothing for them to pursue. However, I still had to leave our home on a cold winters night or face being arrested.
Upon returning next morning, my front door open, with my usual carer present, another woman from the care company, an unknown night sitter, an adult social care worker and another two police officers in my home.
I was not allowed to see or speak to my wife upon her departure from our home without pleading.
My wife was removed from our home, by ambulance that afternoon and taken somewhere which I was not allowed to know. Neither were her friends, or blood relatives.
That location was kept secret until I engaged a solicitor to find her. This was an absolutely cruel, inhumane act, and left me totally devastated and feeling destroyed by these actions, we had never been separated in nearly 40 years , and over the Christmas and New Year made it an even worst experience. As if my wife's diagnosis's were not hard enough to deal with, then this.
I located my wife on the 7th. January 2026. Thanks to my solicitor. I have been at her side, every day since , holding her hand.
